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26 February 2004 @ 11:58 am
...To what extent do you think it's okay to be friends with your professor?

My prof for Roman Civ is a pretty cool guy. He used to be a computer programmer before deciding he wanted to give that up and go back to school for something that had always interested him (i.e., ancient history). So there, right off the bat, we have stuff in common. He's also a Trekker and a PC gamer. Is this getting uncanny or what? ;)

Nick is trying to set up a LAN gaming session among our mutual friends for every Monday night, so I took the plunge (as per Nick's encouragement) and invited my prof to join us. He only lives about 15-20 minutes away- unlike most of my friends, who live in Oakland or even further north- so it's an ideal arrangement, and he seemed pretty psyched about coming over to play.

So am I overstepping my bounds here? I know I have this thing for saying I don't care what other people think, and that I should be telling my insecurities to jump up my butt (ouch), but I still have this voice in my head that keeps saying, "You should wait until the semester's over."

But come on, really... I asked him over because I genuinely think he's a nice guy and would be a good friend. I'm not looking for any "unfair advantage." Remember, this is ancient history we're talking here. The stuff I study on my own like the life-deficient geek I am because I'm genuinely fascinated by it. I was busting out As before I ever started talking to him on a friend-to-friend basis. So I should really get a grip and tell myself to relax and have fun, shouldn't I?
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thedemonprist on March 4th, 2004 12:05 pm (UTC)
Oy, that's tricky...

I guess it just depends on your own personal intuition (i.e., are you getting a lot of creeped-out vibes or just normal nervousness?). It sounds like you're ok though - I mean, I don't see anything wrong with what you've described there. It only becomes a problem when that relationship starts overshadowing everything else. ;)

Me, I met a few college teachers who seemed pretty cool, but I never hung out with them outside of class-related business. The only possible exception to that would probably be my psychology professor Dr. Murphy (who kicked lots of ass), when I once asked if I could talk to him privately about my suspicions of depression (yep, even back then I was feeling it). Long story short, this guy was pretty cool about it, and although it would be a few more years before I actually did get help for my illness, he was concerned enough to urge me to do something about it.

So it all depends on what the relationship is and how comfortable you feel with it, I guess. ^^ Have fun! :)
Miusherimiusheri on March 4th, 2004 05:18 pm (UTC)
Wow, a more or less free psychological consultation... I should've taken advantage of that when I had psych ;)

Thanks for sharing your opinion- makes me less nervous about my own, heh!

Well, we ended up in mutual agreement that it would be best to wait until the semester is over. This is his first semester teaching, after all, and I wouldn't want him to get in trouble over anything like this.

And it turns out Monday nights are bad for just about everyone anyway, at least until the end of the semester, so it works out. ;)

I've had several cool profs before, but none I'd actually invite over 'til now, hehe! ;D