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11 May 2006 @ 02:49 pm
Home Again  
We're back! ::waves::

Hrm- so, the best way I can summarize recent events is thus: the wedding and the visit to Pittsburgh were great. Visiting with my family, however, was a mixed bag. Details behind the cut, but I won't fault you for not wanting to delve into that mess.


The good first: our ceremony was short and sweet, and the weather cooperated. In fact, just after Remy and I were pronounced husband and wife, the clouds broke and there was some serious sunshine for a few minutes. Afterward, we met up with a bunch of friends at the bar Remy's landlord owns. Private party with chips and salsa and cake and champagne and Manhattan Special, and we got to watch Star Trek IV on the big-screen. w00t! After that, several of us went to Zero Gravity for some laser tag. Cheryl and I elected to simply watch the boys duke it out, which was in itself massively entertaining, but next time we go there, I'm playing. I just wasn't feeling up to it at the time (more on that later). Best thing I heard all day came from Sam: "Congratulations. You married a giant five year-old." Damn straight, and I wouldn't have it any other way!

Headed to Pittsburgh with my folks the next day. In Pittsburgh, I got my much-needed fix of Eat 'n Park and Stillers n'at. A lot of stuff has changed, but a lot of it is still very familiar. It was really nice visiting with mqstout and Joey and Angela, and we also ran into the other Angela I knew in high school, her family, and Dave, someone I knew from my Pitt CompSci courses (completely random encounter at the downtown Kaufmann's).

Of course, visiting always leaves me feeling very torn. I like Albany, but there are certain things about Pittsburgh- the skyline, no sales tax on clothes, and most especially, the people I know there- that I miss a lot. I also kinda missed riding the T, for chrissakes. That's bad.

Anyway, about the family mixed-baggedness? Yeah- well, Friday night, we met up with my parents and showed them around Albany and had Greek food, and everything seemed to go really well. But later, as is often the case, Mom's disapproval with every facet of my post-high school life shone through. She told me, in not so many words, that I was making a mistake, that my apartment was a shithole, and that I'd "lowered" myself by moving to Albany. (Well, excuse me for not having amassed hundreds of thousands of dollars two years after college with which to buy a goddamn mansion. She seems to have forgotten that at the time I was born, she and my dad were living in a one-bedroom university apartment in Arkansas, paragon of civilization.)

I was expecting something along those lines- really, there's not one independent decision I make that she doesn't find some fault with- but not at the time she decided it was a good idea to tell me all this. That time was not five minutes before the wedding- and she repeated the refrain during my reception, any time I tried to talk to her. Talk about killing the mood. The rest of my wedding day was tainted by that, as much as I tried to brush it off and enjoy myself. So, if I seemed at all pensive at the reception and/or at laser tag, that's why. I didn't tell Remy what was bothering me until much later, because I didn't want to spoil the day for him. He made me feel better about it, but still, my mom's piss-poor timing and lack of tact really stings. I was mad enough that I almost called off going to Pittsburgh the next day.

End rant. I don't want to be angry or depressed, but that's what I'm trending toward right now; thinking about this stuff tore off the scab, and it's not like my medication is going to let me get over it easily. There were definitely good parts about seeing my family, though- like that Friday night when everyone seemed happy enough, being able to crash at my parents', having ready access to the Mercedes (the car I was never allowed near) for driving anywhere I wanted to go, having a ride to the airport at 4:00 AM, and watching SNL's Best of Chris Farley with my sister.


Meanwhile, the most recent Doctor Who was by far the best of the season so far. We've watched it twice and it made me teary-eyed both times. Great sci-fi and great drama, can't ask for much more.

Also, I got a book on Ruby and have been learning more about it. Crazy-ass language, but it does really neat things. =)
 
 
Current Mood: conflicted
Current Music: Weezer - Perfect Situation
 
 
 
Purrsia Kat: hugspurrsia on May 11th, 2006 07:00 pm (UTC)
Aw, that stinks that your mom had to put a damper on your big day :/ It really was very tactless of her.

But let me extend my congrats to you and Remy!
Miusherimiusheri on May 11th, 2006 07:05 pm (UTC)
*hugs* Many thanks! =)
Ellieellie on May 11th, 2006 07:23 pm (UTC)
Parents nearly always want better for their children than they had for themselves. Sometimes they forget that you just can't teleport from comfortably middle class and happy right after college to wealthy and affluent and happy in a matter of days. It just doesn't work that way. It's not supposed to.

However, parents also lack timing. To rant about how you want better for your child when she is going to get married to the man she loves very much is horribly inappropriate.

*hugs*

I missed you.
Miusherimiusheri on May 11th, 2006 08:28 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I missed you too, sweetie! Perhaps some chatting this evening is in order? =)
Ellieellie on May 11th, 2006 08:33 pm (UTC)
I think I can arrange something.
skyibesky on May 11th, 2006 07:56 pm (UTC)
Glad you two are back. And parents, argh. Their view can be rather clouded, but I'm sure she'll see that you made a most excellent decision in the near future.

And, oh yes, you need to give me dates. :D
Miusherimiusheri on May 11th, 2006 08:29 pm (UTC)
Indeed, yes! That's going to be a most awesome getaway, thank you so much! =D We'll get back to you on that count soon! *hugs*
Lisa Maesielisamaesie on May 11th, 2006 10:52 pm (UTC)
I don't usually miss Pittsburgh but you mentioned Eat 'n Park. Oh, smiley face cookies, how I miss you. Not really for eating, just... seeing them around always made me happy...

In other news, parents can suck sometimes. My father has a heart attack if I ever say the words "internet" and "friend" in the same sentance.
Miusheri: Pittsburghmiusheri on May 12th, 2006 01:01 am (UTC)
Hehe! Perhaps this helps?

I got my smiley cookie fix early- in Altoona, actually, still en route to the Burgh. I really wish they had Eat 'n Parks up here, even if it means I'd have to see an Eat n' Park with Giants memorabilia scattered around it (gasp!).

lol, my parents too, sometimes! And the Internet's how I met Remy, so of course he must be Satan's spawn. Oh wait, damn it, I was supposed to keep that secret... ;)
Lisa Maesielisamaesie on May 12th, 2006 01:04 am (UTC)
I never did tell my parents that I met Jonathan online.... ; ) I'm keeping that on the low-down.
Lisa Maesie: Smileylisamaesie on May 12th, 2006 01:14 am (UTC)
P.S.
Miusherimiusheri on May 12th, 2006 01:26 am (UTC)
Awesome! ^_^
Angel: five tardisdeathslilsister on May 12th, 2006 12:02 am (UTC)
Blech, parents. You'll show them... or maybe they'll finally figure out you already have. :)

And did you know the woman who played Madame De Pompadour is really David Tennant's girlfriend? Helloooo chemistry. *g*
Miusheri: geekmiusheri on May 12th, 2006 01:03 am (UTC)
I didn't know that, but it makes perfect sense in hindsight! Loooved that episode *gush* ;)
Angeldeathslilsister on May 12th, 2006 01:29 am (UTC)
doesn't it? I was kind of on the fence about Blonde Woman, but after I heard that, I figured if Tennant likes her, then I'd trust his taste :) oh! and (here I go geeking) the same guy who wrote that episode wrote "The Doctor Dances" and "Curse of the Fatal Dead." Good man, that one. :)
Miusherimiusheri on May 12th, 2006 01:32 am (UTC)
I thought she was pretty and surprisingly not-annoying, heh. And yeah, okay, that guy is a really good writer for the show then! ^_^
Aikidoka, dreamer, seeker, general purpose geekmanycolored on May 12th, 2006 03:34 am (UTC)
Arghhh! Parents! Following your heart is NEVER lowering yourself. Your mom sounds like she has good intentions gone awry. *hugs*
Miusherimiusheri on May 12th, 2006 03:39 am (UTC)
*hugs* Indeed- I know she means well, but it often comes off as though she doesn't approve of or even like me. (Here I mean "like" in a far different sense than "love." I know she loves me, but if I weren't her daughter, I don't know if she'd have a favorable opinion of me.)
Chia de Boskchiasmushf on May 12th, 2006 01:01 pm (UTC)
I'm kicking around the idea of seminary in Pittsburgh. Do you like that city?
Miusheri: Pittsburghmiusheri on May 12th, 2006 02:46 pm (UTC)
I enjoy it, but then again, I grew up there, so the "Home" bias is most definitely in play. ;) I know lisamaesie was there for college, you could also ask her opinion- but no matter what, I would definitely recommend visiting a few times to get a first-hand feel for the place.