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07 September 2004 @ 08:23 am
The (long) Weekend!  
First off, thanks to everyone who offered their condolences and well wishes. *hugs* You guys are the best; I don't know what I'd do without you!

Still don't have DSL at the apartment, and the place still looks like a tornado hit it. We're working on it. ;) Doesn't quite feel like "home" yet, but I think that takes some time.

lordjosh2004, glad you made it home safely! Sorry we didn't call you; things were kinda hectic yesterday. You'll have to come by and visit again when we're better situated! ^_^



Kaveh, who my sister and I liked to call our "uncle" even though we weren't related, hanged himself in his basement several days ago and mailed out a suicide letter to everyone he knew, detailing the affair his wife was having and how that had pretty much pushed him over the edge. Lies and rumors were flying all weekend; I had at first been under the impression that he'd died in L.A. or Houston, where he was supposedly traveling, but that wasn't the case. He'd wanted his wife to find him. I'm just really glad his son wasn't around when the discovery was made.

We found out about all this on Saturday, when we got the letter in the mail. Quite a shitty thing to find out, and even shittier to find out the day before you get married, you know? All that day and evening, I alternated between feeling numb and crying my eyes out. Oddly enough, I found I couldn't cry around my mom or sister, so at least I was able to let them cry on my shoulder. Nick's family was congregating at Dave and Buster's that evening, so Nick took me out there too; we agreed it wouldn't be good for me to sit at home and dwell on it. I didn't play much at D&B's other than House of the Dead and Pod Racer, my perennial favorites. The shooting games especially had a calming effect, and the whole rest of the night I wanted to go home and play Unreal Tournament, but I had already packed that game and sent it to the apartment. *shrug*

As far as I understand it, Kaveh's wife has holed herself away in her home and has someone screening any would-be visitors. She's letting her son play with his friends and go to school, at least to my knowledge. He's six years old and autistic, so it's hard to say how much he understands of the situation, but he apparently understands enough of it. From what I hear, he keeps trying to play games with his friends to "bring Daddy back." =(

If anything, this has been a lesson as to how stupid suicide can be. I understand how hopeless Kaveh felt, but looking at everything he left behind, was it really worth it? Pain goes away, eventually. Death is forever.




Thank goodness, everyone was feeling much better by Sunday, including me. =) I spent about two hours in the salon getting my hair done with Krissy (maid of honor) and Jessie (junior bridesmaid), then I came home and got dressed and my family took a bajillion pictures. ;)

We headed down to Oakland for the ceremony at Phipps Conservatory. Everything went off flawlessly! The photographer and flowers were there before I was, and our officiant showed up soon after. My pre-ceremony time was spent taking pictures, hiding from Nick, and chatting with my friends. It was so great to have them all in one place, though it made it difficult to spend a significant amount of time with any of them! In case you're wondering- no, I wasn't nervous, just excited. Well, and sleepy, too. I almost fell asleep in the car on the way there! I have no idea why.

The ceremony was great: short and sweet. Everyone in attendance got to come down into the garden with us, which we were initially told they wouldn't be allowed to do. Both moms cried buckets, but I didn't and neither did Nick. I might have started at one point or other, but Nick kept trying to tickle my wrist the entire time. He wasn't actually successful, but the thought of him trying to tickle me during the ceremony was enough to keep me grinning. ;) The only downside was the heat. It is a greenhouse and it was an 80-degree day! But pretty much everyone took it in stride.

After thousands more pictures (including one of me and Nick with the Cathedral of Learning in the background- can't wait to see that one), we headed for Mt. Washington and Monterey Bay Fish Grotto. We took a few pictures with Nick's Firehawk and on an observation deck before heading inside. I think everyone had a nice time at the reception. Again, everything went off without a hitch, which I hadn't expected, to be honest! My mom, Mihoko, and Misako (her sister) really outdid themselves decorating the room we'd rented. Mom set up a sofreh-ye aqd for me (the traditional Iranian wedding table), and it was especially gorgeous!

Nick kissed off all my lipstick by the time people got tired of clinking their glasses at us, heh! Dinner was great, and Jeff and Krissy toasted us very nicely (though I think Krissy was a leeetle tipsy by then). I needed some aspirin by that point- I think all the sweating I did at Phipps was starting to get to me, 'cause I was even more drowsy and had a headache to boot, but I recovered pretty quickly. Nick and I cut the cake and then fed each other honey in the Iranian tradition before we had our first dance. Then, Mom and I danced Iranian for everyone. Usually, the bride has a dance with her father, but mine wasn't about to be present, so I wanted to dance with Mom instead. It was a pretty lively dance track and we had everyone clapping along. I could've danced better if I wasn't tripping all over my dress, hehe! ;)

After cake, I spent most of the remaining time running outside for pictures and talking to my friends from Pitt, catching up on stuff at my old help desk job and recalling all the nasty (and hilarious) things the full-timers did. Things wound down around then, and Nick and I were back to our apartment by 10:00. All in all, it was a fantastic day, and I'm so glad so many people were able to make it! =)
 
 
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Current Music: Can you believe I still have that Sheryl Crow CD in my car?
 
 
 
Lisa Maesielisamaesie on September 7th, 2004 07:05 am (UTC)
Oooh, at Phipps, what a cool place to do it. I'm glad it went well!
mqstout on September 7th, 2004 08:29 am (UTC)
Minna, your wedding has been one of the best I've attended (And, with a large family, I've attended many). I am so happy to have been invited!

PS: Mmm, Iranian wedding table tasties.
Miusheri: Laramiusheri on September 7th, 2004 11:32 am (UTC)
I'm really happy to hear that, and I'm so glad you came! =) *hugs*

P.S. Any time you want more Iranian food, lemme know ^_^
lordjosh2004lordjosh2004 on September 7th, 2004 11:36 am (UTC)
It was a wonderful ceremony, my dear friend, and I am really glad that I was able to be there. I hope the moving in goes as smoothly as the festivities did. I wish you both years of happiness and congratulations again! ::e-hugs all around::
Miusheri: Feliciamiusheri on September 8th, 2004 09:34 am (UTC)
::hugs muchly in return:: I'm so glad you made it! Thanks again for coming! =D I hope that pic of us and mqstout the photographer snapped comes out decently!

BTW, could you email me your new (sorta) snail mail address?